Urgent: Suicide Workshops Transform Grief for Families in Cork

UPDATE: In a groundbreaking development, suicide workshops in Cork are providing crucial support for families grappling with the devastating impact of suicide. As families mark World Suicide Prevention Day today, September 10, participants share their transformative experiences in confronting grief and seeking healing.

Mary Casey’s life was forever altered during a family gathering when she learned the shocking truth about her father, Richard Casey. For years, she believed he died of a heart attack, only to discover at age 21 that he had taken his own life. “When my cousin asked me if I knew my father died by suicide, I felt like the ground had opened up and swallowed me,” Mary recalled. The revelation left her with overwhelming questions and a sense of betrayal, as she had been told from a young age that his death was due to natural causes.

Now, decades later, Mary is courageously sharing her story to highlight the importance of these workshops led by psychotherapists Brendan and Eileen O’Brien. “I signed up straight away,” she stated about the workshops aimed at those bereaved by suicide. The sessions employ a method known as family constellation, which helps participants uncover hidden dynamics affecting their mental health. Mary describes the workshops as a pivotal moment in her journey toward healing, saying, “It smashed the wall that had shuttered down in front of me after being told about my dad’s death.”

Meanwhile, Nuala Burke, a participant from Bishopstown, Cork, is also advocating for awareness following the loss of her son Stephen, who died by suicide eight years ago at age 37. “If love could stop this, there would be no suicides,” Nuala said, emphasizing how love and support are not always enough to combat mental health struggles. “Steve was lovely, funny, and talented,” she added, reflecting on the profound impact of his loss.

Both Mary and Nuala stress the urgent need for open conversations about suicide, breaking down the stigma that has long surrounded the issue. “Suicides can occur even in the most loving of families,” Mary explained, underscoring the complexity of grief when families remain silent about such tragedies.

Brendan O’Brien, who has dedicated his life to suicide prevention and mental health advocacy, believes that addressing intergenerational trauma is crucial. He stated, “I think what Brendan and Eileen do in terms of addressing intergenerational stuff and the importance of prevention is really valuable.” His work, shaped by personal tragedy after losing his aunt to suicide, aims to foster understanding and healing within families.

The workshops are not only a space for healing but also a platform for raising awareness. Mary and Nuala’s stories resonate with many, highlighting the need for honesty and transparency when discussing suicide with children. “I think every child should be told the truth but in an age-appropriate way,” Mary advised, emphasizing the importance of providing children with the language they need to understand such complex issues.

As the community comes together on this significant day, the O’Briens continue to offer hope and healing to those affected by suicide. Brendan’s new book, Understanding Suicide: A New Lens, delves into these themes and shares stories from workshop participants, furthering the mission to combat stigma and promote mental health awareness.

With the ongoing crisis of mental health globally, these workshops are a beacon of hope for families in Cork and beyond. The urgent need for dialogue and support remains as vital as ever, as individuals and families navigate the painful reality of suicide.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or contact a local support organization. Together, we can work to prevent further tragedies and support those in need.